If you’re looking for a good friend, there are a few simple tricks to finding one. You need trust in the person, you need to like them, and last but not least, you need to get along with them. Some friends are temporary, and some are here for the long run. Finding a best friend, you need to make sure that this is the friend that isn’t going to leave when things get tough. And just remember, as the American Proverb says, “Fooled once shame on you, fooled twice shame on me.”
Being able to trust in a person is very hard. Being able to trust someone is ever harder. Some people find this easier than others, but you have to have faith in them. You have to know that they are going to stick by your side, and they are going to stick up for you. You need to test their friendship, start with little things like sharing something. Take turns driving places, taking care of the bill, and just have fun with this “friend”. Next, you need to start sharing small secrets, and they need to share back. You will slowly feel trust building up and just remember to hardly ever put all your trust in someone. They have to earn that trust. Putting all of your marbles on the table is for when this person proves to you that they have your best intentions in mind and that they are going to act on that no matter what. Hopefully when you find that friend you’re willing to take a chance on, they will be highly enjoyable.
Learning to like someone and live with their flaws, like a friend having OCD can be difficult. Having a friend that chomps, has other bad habits’, or is just annoying is also a difficulty that you have to live with and figure out how to deal with. If they have a relaxed personality, it’s a safe bet that you can be up front with the friend. Tell them that it’s disgusting to chomp food, tell them that they need to change how they act, to a point; you don’t want them to completely change, because they got you as a friend from acting a certain way! In certain situations, you should tip-toe around the subject if you think the friend will react a bit harsher. If the comment is somewhat unimportant, then why risk upsetting your friend? Sometimes suffering through the pain of having a friend clean up after you, is well worth the agony of always having a clean apartment!
Last but not least, when creating a great friendship, you need to get along with the person. You should be friends at this point, and also trusting them completely with your valuables, if they are going to be let into your life and around your house. Compatibility is a big part of trust, because it shows who is similar to you and who you should treat a bit differently. To find out if you’re compatible, try going to the movies together. If you don’t have fun, try something interactive, like going bowling or to lounge to hang out. In the end, if that doesn’t work, then try going to a dinner together, whether in a group, or just on a friend date. Within all of these activities, if you have a blast, then you have most likely found your future roommate, or a future close friend. Still have your guard up a bit just to make sure that your friend is sincere and you will be on track to gaining a new friend.
When investing in a friend, just remember to be cautious. Always be open to a new friend, but remember to follow the steps. An unknown author once said, ““Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.” Always remember this because when you find one of the special ones, you won’t want to ever leave them, and you will always carry a part of them. Always have a small guard up when beginning any friendship, but also remember to let it down once in a while. Also, look at yourself to see if you’re as compatible as the person you’re looking for. Look at your own habits and see if they’re ones that others would like to be annoyed of. Always think of your friends as family, and consider the as important as yourself.
Being able to trust in a person is very hard. Being able to trust someone is ever harder. Some people find this easier than others, but you have to have faith in them. You have to know that they are going to stick by your side, and they are going to stick up for you. You need to test their friendship, start with little things like sharing something. Take turns driving places, taking care of the bill, and just have fun with this “friend”. Next, you need to start sharing small secrets, and they need to share back. You will slowly feel trust building up and just remember to hardly ever put all your trust in someone. They have to earn that trust. Putting all of your marbles on the table is for when this person proves to you that they have your best intentions in mind and that they are going to act on that no matter what. Hopefully when you find that friend you’re willing to take a chance on, they will be highly enjoyable.
Learning to like someone and live with their flaws, like a friend having OCD can be difficult. Having a friend that chomps, has other bad habits’, or is just annoying is also a difficulty that you have to live with and figure out how to deal with. If they have a relaxed personality, it’s a safe bet that you can be up front with the friend. Tell them that it’s disgusting to chomp food, tell them that they need to change how they act, to a point; you don’t want them to completely change, because they got you as a friend from acting a certain way! In certain situations, you should tip-toe around the subject if you think the friend will react a bit harsher. If the comment is somewhat unimportant, then why risk upsetting your friend? Sometimes suffering through the pain of having a friend clean up after you, is well worth the agony of always having a clean apartment!
Last but not least, when creating a great friendship, you need to get along with the person. You should be friends at this point, and also trusting them completely with your valuables, if they are going to be let into your life and around your house. Compatibility is a big part of trust, because it shows who is similar to you and who you should treat a bit differently. To find out if you’re compatible, try going to the movies together. If you don’t have fun, try something interactive, like going bowling or to lounge to hang out. In the end, if that doesn’t work, then try going to a dinner together, whether in a group, or just on a friend date. Within all of these activities, if you have a blast, then you have most likely found your future roommate, or a future close friend. Still have your guard up a bit just to make sure that your friend is sincere and you will be on track to gaining a new friend.
When investing in a friend, just remember to be cautious. Always be open to a new friend, but remember to follow the steps. An unknown author once said, ““Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.” Always remember this because when you find one of the special ones, you won’t want to ever leave them, and you will always carry a part of them. Always have a small guard up when beginning any friendship, but also remember to let it down once in a while. Also, look at yourself to see if you’re as compatible as the person you’re looking for. Look at your own habits and see if they’re ones that others would like to be annoyed of. Always think of your friends as family, and consider the as important as yourself.
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